Scott Weiland's Ex-wife Mary Weiland Has Written A Candid Letter About The Late Rocker, Urging Fans Not To "Glorify The Tragedy" Of His Death.
The former Stone Temple Pilots frontman, who had a history of substance abuse issues, died in his sleep on Thursday (03Dec15), shortly before a performance with his group The Wildabouts in Bloomington, Minnesota.
The cause of his death has yet to be confirmed.
Fellow rockers and bandmates including Slash, Matt Sorum, and Dave Kushner have paid tribute to Scott since his passing, but his second wife, Mary, was not so kind.
In a letter published on RollingStone.com, Mary remembers her husband of seven years as a broken man who missed out on seeing his kids, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13, due to his drug problems.
"December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died," Mary writes. "It... was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others. The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting. But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope."
Insisting she does not want to "downplay Scott's amazing talent," Mary points out that the singer was not the devoted family man he claimed to be.
"We read that he loved spending time with his children and that he'd been drug-free for years! In reality, what you didn't want to acknowledge was a paranoid man who couldn't remember his own lyrics and who was only photographed with his children a handful of times in 15 years of fatherhood... Even after Scott and I split up, I spent countless hours trying to calm his paranoid fits, pushing him into the shower and filling him with coffee, just so that I could drop him into the audience at Noah's talent show, or Lucy's musical. Those short encounters were my attempts at giving the kids a feeling of normalcy with their dad. But anything longer would often turn into something scary and uncomfortable for them... There were times that Child Protective Services did not allow him to to be alone with them."
Mary also claims that Scott became even more distant after he married photographer Jamie in 2013, adding, "(The kids) were not invited to his wedding; child support checks often never arrived... I don't share this with you to cast judgment, I do so because you most likely know at least one child in the same shoes."
Mary goes on to conclude, "This is the final step in our long goodbye to Scott... I won't say he can rest now, or that he's in a better place... Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let's choose to make this first time we don't glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don't have to come with it.
"Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it - use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream."