Reese Witherspoon was "surprised" Jim Toth wanted to be with her.

The 'Water for Elephants' actress - who split from first husband Ryan Phillippe in 2006 after seven years of marriage - tied the knot with the Hollywood agent last week but admits she never expected to find love again because she has too many "quirks".

She said: "You're surprised somebody wants to be with you because, boy, I've got a lot of quirks and wrinkles."

However, the 35-year-old beauty believes her marriage to 'Cruel Intentions' co-star Ryan - with who she has children Ava, 11, and seven-year-old Deacon - helped her "learn" a lot about relationships and particularly communication with a significant other.

She said: "We were ridiculously young. I learnt a lot, thought.

"It was a good opportunity for me to really find out what it means to be a partner and to be in a marriage, and it's not anything I thought it was.

"You can't say, 'I don't want to talk about that.' You just can't. You've got to talk about it all."

Reese - who won an Oscar for her portrayal of JUNE CARTER CASH in 'Walk the Line' in 2005 - also admitted she finds it hard to be away from her children.

She told Britain's Elle magazine: "There's this fallacy that we can have it all. I get it often, 'Oh, you have it all,' and I don't.

"It's hard. And there are times I take two years off and I don't work. And there are times I go to work and I feel sick because I can't see my kids for five days.

"And it's real hard to go. Work is important to me. The kids are important to me. My relationship's important to me. But all three can't be functioning at 100 per cent at all times."