American singer INDIA.ARIE has finally got over the bitterness she felt for years after the break up of her relationship with the man she believed would be her husband. The BROWN SKIN star has chosen to focus on the power of forgiveness on her new album TESTIMONY, VOL 1: LIFE + RELATIONSHIP, and she is reaping the rewards of leaving her pain behind. The 30-year-old says, "If you don't learn your lessons, then you are only hurting yourself. "For the sake of being a better person, I took that relationship and relationships in general and just looked at it from every angle for three years, and wrote a whole bunch of songs about it. "I think when people write those songs that are really bitter and people are bitter, it's because they're dealing with the surface."